Surviving the long ride. Dealing with the junk in the road.

I love motorcycles. Pretty much all of them. While in recording school, I worked for a shop that serviced and sold used bikes. It was great. Working the sales lot required me to become familiar with everything that came in. It also required me to ride everything at least once. Really tough job. There was […]

Can a miscarriage destroy a family?

There’s still a few areas, of our life, that I have not been able to deal with or share. Even now, certain events and circumstances are too much to write about. Until now, I haven’t been ready to subject myself to those memories. Since October is “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month” I decided to […]

The 24 Hour Miracle

As part of the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association, we were issued a challenge to write about specific topics this month. Today it’s about wisdom we have found in the Bible. The simplest things I could do, right now, is copy and paste the entire book of Proverbs into this. A pastor once challenged me to […]

Responding to Grace

In my ramblings and tirades, I occasionally skip over some of the more valuable stuff. Not intentionally, it just happens when my brain gets moving at warp speed and I miss my exit. There’s something that I have been thinking about lately. It’s probably one of the most amazing words in our language. Grace. A […]

Why is there so much noise in my house?

There are things that only parents can truly understand. Legos in the carpet. Random stickiness around the house. Things disappearing, when you know exactly where you left them. Unexplainable toilet clogs, coinciding with these missing items. Sleepless nights and frantic days. Fun stuff like that. The issue I want to consider, is the noise. The […]

Now you have done it! Look what you made me do.

25 years of marriage. 5 years of reconciliation. 2 years of writing my stories, and it all comes down to this. 400 pages of hard earned wisdom. In print. It came to my attention that there are a whole lot of folks who don’t read online. Yeah. I knew that, just hadn’t really thought much […]

Stay on target

Stay on target. That line probably means more to the Star Wars crowd than anyone. It’s from the full assault scene when the rebel forces go after the Death Star. They found a way to destroy it. All they need is a direct hit… Into a tiny little target… While being shot at by a […]

Facing your worst fears. My encounter with a bear.

I never should have gone outside, that late at night. It felt like a bad idea from the first step. But I had to. My wife and kids were out of town. I had the house to myself. Well. Me, the dog and cat. I really hate that cat. It wakes me up demanding food. […]

Finding ways to bless my wife everyday

A good friend of mine sent an article. 24 facts of real life couples. I thoroughly enjoyed it. In reading, I noticed that we were doing 19 out of the 24. It got me thinking about the little details of daily life in marriage. Maybe I should let you guys know my routines. Disclaimer. I […]

Preparing to live the good life

There was a story I heard, years ago, about a tropical village needing a new king. The tradition, on this island, was to choose a new king every ten years. Once he was king, he could do anything he wanted. Every whim and desire became reality. The village was his to rule and manage. The […]

The paper doll effect

In her infinite wisdom, my wife has discovered something that destroys relationships. She calls it the paper doll effect. It’s when we try to impose hurts and expectations, from previous relationships on our present relationships. Pretty impressive concept. She has a friend that is in a dysfunctional relationship. They aren’t married, but constantly argue and […]

The long road to restoration and the lingering effects of an affair.

I have a story to tell. Someone close to me, has survived an affair and is working to restore a marriage. He isn’t ready to share all the details or even his name, mostly to cover his wife, but he wanted me to tell his story. Hoping it will encourage more guys to be proactive […]

The reality of taking a leap of faith

As a Christain, I can say this without much reservation. Most of us do really stupid stuff. On top of that, most of us do that stupid stuff, while claiming that God told us to do it. Admit it. You’ve done it, too. Let me be a little more specific. The infamous “leap of faith.” […]

Ten simple rules for being a happily married man

Ok, guys. I am going to let you in on a secret. It’s not that hard to keep momma happy. Seriously. Let me lay out the simple ground rules for keeping peace in your home. If it matters to her, it should matter to you. If she loves roller skating, I suggest you learn to […]

The truth about consequences

Last night, I did something that makes me cringe. The very thought, makes me begin to stress out and possibly panic. But, it had to be done. I went to Walmart. My old counselors and psychologists didn’t have a solution, but they claimed to understand. There’s something about walking into a Walmart that puts me […]

Diffusing the explosive child

I have children. That’s a big statement, all by itself. But, there’s more. These kids range from 12 to 30. We have encountered almost every aspect of parenting by now. Some things went beautifully, creating lasting memories that we will all cherish forever. The rest made our kids believe their parents were psychotic fruit cakes […]

How do I get my wife to serve me?

Alright. Let’s just jump into this one. I figure that the guys who found this, were probably searching for it, or the title got your attention. Either way, I want to help you understand the best way to get your wife to serve you properly. First things first. Is this really your wife? These rules […]

Learning to love, the right way

Can I take a moment to clear up some misconceptions? Like the one where God uses evil to get us to act right? Where He is a mean guy, poking us with a stick or beating us into submission. The problem with that idea, is that would make it ok for us to do the […]

How does church compare to happy hour?

I heard a pastor, once, who said that a neighborhood bar was closer to an ideal church than most churches are. He pointed out the sense of community, the singing and dancing, the fact that folks went out of desire and not obligation. I think he was onto something. There are a lot of similarities. […]

Reaching the End of Yourself

In 1996, I was managing a warehouse in Georgia. My brother was hired to help with a large project, and worked with me for a week or so. During this time, we had to use the “old van” to run across town. It was the first one ever bought by the company and wasn’t exactly […]

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