Divorce is unavoidable

I hate to say it, but divorce is unavoidable. There is no way around it. The patterns and habits, you have developed, guarantee that those wedding vows and promises will be worthless. Unless you look for certain issues, in your marriage, and deal with them. There are two kinds of men, who don’t really have […]

The luckiest man in the world

That’s right. It’s me. I am the luckiest man in the entire world. Twenty five years ago, today, I married so far out of my league that it still blows my mind. You might think that’s an exaggeration. You might even be rolling your eyes, thinking that I am just goofy. But the fact is […]

Cookbook for couples, good stuff

I was asked to review a cookbook recently. Something very different from my normal stuff, but I agreed. Christi Silbaugh and Cedar Fort Publishing & Media are pleased to announce “Gourmet Cooking for Two” blog tour. I have now had a few months with this cookbook. Wasn’t exactly sure what to expect when I was […]

Persuaded to become a Christian

In Acts chapter 26, King Agrippa told Paul that he was almost persuaded to be a Christian. Paul, wearing chains and accused of madness, had simply told his story. He told how violently and radically he had opposed Christianity. He told of how Christ had become so real to him, that he had converted all […]

Taking responsibility for your future

Ok. Here’s the deal for the day. I want all the younger guys, the newlyweds, the ones dating and the ones who are just reading this hopefully to hear something clearly… The good life doesn’t happen by accident. Happy marriages don’t “just happen.” Financial security is rarely as simple as a lottery ticket. The folks […]

The Impending Doom of a Control Freak

I heard a story about two ladies, each married to a control freak. Even though these guys are completely different, they still qualify. Their decisions and action are forcing their wives to work around them. They are destroying their marriages and pushing these ladies to consider drastic measures. Knucklehead number one. They were happily married […]

Marriage, according to the manufacturer’s intended purpose.

Someone commented, on another blogger’s site, about what qualifies as abuse. He didn’t believe yelling or arguing or any of the “normal” stuff qualified. Someone else claimed that flirting wasn’t cheating. I have a different opinion about all that. “Except for use, other than the purpose designed for.” That’s the type of disclaimer found in […]

Do the clothes really make the man?

Do the clothes really make the man? I heard that line recently. It rolled around in the back of my head for the last week or two. Just pondering it. I know what the line is supposed to mean. I have been out in a high dollar suit before, dressed to kill. I know how […]

Surviving the long ride. Dealing with the junk in the road.

I love motorcycles. Pretty much all of them. While in recording school, I worked for a shop that serviced and sold used bikes. It was great. Working the sales lot required me to become familiar with everything that came in. It also required me to ride everything at least once. Really tough job. There was […]

Can a miscarriage destroy a family?

There’s still a few areas, of our life, that I have not been able to deal with or share. Even now, certain events and circumstances are too much to write about. Until now, I haven’t been ready to subject myself to those memories. Since October is “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month” I decided to […]

The 24 Hour Miracle

As part of the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association, we were issued a challenge to write about specific topics this month. Today it’s about wisdom we have found in the Bible. The simplest things I could do, right now, is copy and paste the entire book of Proverbs into this. A pastor once challenged me to […]

Responding to Grace

In my ramblings and tirades, I occasionally skip over some of the more valuable stuff. Not intentionally, it just happens when my brain gets moving at warp speed and I miss my exit. There’s something that I have been thinking about lately. It’s probably one of the most amazing words in our language. Grace. A […]

Why is there so much noise in my house?

There are things that only parents can truly understand. Legos in the carpet. Random stickiness around the house. Things disappearing, when you know exactly where you left them. Unexplainable toilet clogs, coinciding with these missing items. Sleepless nights and frantic days. Fun stuff like that. The issue I want to consider, is the noise. The […]

Now you have done it! Look what you made me do.

25 years of marriage. 5 years of reconciliation. 2 years of writing my stories, and it all comes down to this. 400 pages of hard earned wisdom. In print. It came to my attention that there are a whole lot of folks who don’t read online. Yeah. I knew that, just hadn’t really thought much […]

Stay on target

Stay on target. That line probably means more to the Star Wars crowd than anyone. It’s from the full assault scene when the rebel forces go after the Death Star. They found a way to destroy it. All they need is a direct hit… Into a tiny little target… While being shot at by a […]

Facing your worst fears. My encounter with a bear.

I never should have gone outside, that late at night. It felt like a bad idea from the first step. But I had to. My wife and kids were out of town. I had the house to myself. Well. Me, the dog and cat. I really hate that cat. It wakes me up demanding food. […]

Finding ways to bless my wife everyday

A good friend of mine sent an article. 24 facts of real life couples. I thoroughly enjoyed it. In reading, I noticed that we were doing 19 out of the 24. It got me thinking about the little details of daily life in marriage. Maybe I should let you guys know my routines. Disclaimer. I […]

Preparing to live the good life

There was a story I heard, years ago, about a tropical village needing a new king. The tradition, on this island, was to choose a new king every ten years. Once he was king, he could do anything he wanted. Every whim and desire became reality. The village was his to rule and manage. The […]

The paper doll effect

In her infinite wisdom, my wife has discovered something that destroys relationships. She calls it the paper doll effect. It’s when we try to impose hurts and expectations, from previous relationships on our present relationships. Pretty impressive concept. She has a friend that is in a dysfunctional relationship. They aren’t married, but constantly argue and […]

The long road to restoration and the lingering effects of an affair.

I have a story to tell. Someone close to me, has survived an affair and is working to restore a marriage. He isn’t ready to share all the details or even his name, mostly to cover his wife, but he wanted me to tell his story. Hoping it will encourage more guys to be proactive […]

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